It seems that everyone is full of advice in regard to how we should raise our children. That task, however, falls to us as parents. It doesn’t fall to distant relatives or our acquaintances. Never-the-less, it is sometimes helpful to have clear guidance as to how we should go about meeting certain steps of the larger overall task. This article will provide that guidance.
If you’re away on a trip without your child, make sure you call them at least once a day to tell them you miss them. This lets the child know that you love them and haven’t forgotten about them. You don’t want your child to feel like they’re not as important as your friends or your job are.
Try to attend every performance, sporting event, or whatever your child has going on. This is a great way for you to show your child that you care about them and to encourage them in whatever they want to do. If you have multiple children and their events conflict with each other, one parent may have to go to one event and the other to the other event; but always try to attend these events unless you absolutely cannot.
Praise your children often! If you ‘catch’ your child doing an appropriate behavior, tell him how proud you are. Children love positive words and praise. Hearing kind words will help your child to feel good about himself and will cause him to continue trying to do good things to receive more praise.
Consider teaching a young toddler or older infant signing. Even if you don’t use special “baby sign”, toddlers will have an easier time communicating with their hands than with their words. This is an especially useful technique if you have a toddler with a language delay, as it provides them with a channel for communication.
Using win/win negotiating strategies to help resolve the every day disputes that often arise between siblings can go a long way to help reduce fighting. When children quarrel, focus on trying to help them see that there is a solution that will get everyone’s needs met. Ask for their suggestions first and then offer more of your own.
In order to teach you child how to have good behavior you have to show them by example. You cannot tell your child to act a certain way and then you go and do the opposite right in front of them. Act the way that you want them to act.
Overdressing can lead to a crabby baby! Babies get hot and uncomfortable wearing too much, just like we do. A good rule of thumb is to dress your baby the way you feel comfortable, whether for indoors or out. If it’s cool and you need a jacket, baby probably does too!
The intent of the tips provided above is not to tell you how to raise your children. Instead, these tips are only intended to provide direction in how to go about optimizing the process. With clear goals and directions in mind, it is much easier to interact with our children. This is true whether we are interacting deciding what they should eat for dinner or who they should date.